Life Lessons

Why is it that the life lessons seem to be the hardest and more hurtful lessons to learn? To bad they aren't like a lesson in math or science.........you learn it, you study it, memorize it and then get tested on it..............and then move on! Maybe that's the way we should look at life lessons?!?

So this weeks life lesson.............just because you consider someone your friend doesn't mean they consider you a friend. This is important because when it comes to the things you cherish and the things you trust your friends with, they need to feel the same way, be respectful and above all, be a good friend. Friends have differences and its okay that you don't always agree. And this isn't about a disagreement. Its about trust and trusting your friends with the things you hold most dear to you. After all would you trust one of your most cherished things, like a child with someone that didn't consider you a friend?

So food for thought........if the saying is true, "Keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer"..........are you the friend or the enemy?

Be aware of the difference between a friend, an acquaintance and your enemy!

Hardest Jobs

I have confirmed over the past several weeks that one of the hardest jobs in the world has to be a parents job! Kudos to all you parents out there! I have been blessed with wonderful nieces and nephews in my life. Over the past few weeks I have had the nieces for a week at my house and then spent a long weekend on vacation with them and their momma in Galveston. I have learned that maybe what people say about girls being harder to raise than boys might be true! I have also realized that in a very short time my "pre-teen" niece will no longer be as interested in spending time with her relatives unless they are cousins of her own age. I have also realized that as little girls become young women they go through mood changes, get attitudes about some things without even realizing is and can be emotional at times beyond their reasonable control! And yet some how I have forgot that I was once their age and can relate.

So though I will never be a parent, I can honestly say that I love having nieces and nephews around me that I can spend time with. And to add, its nice to send them home too when I don't know how to handle them. :)

To Walk A Mile in Anothers Shoes!

I have always admired that saying............."never judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes". I try and remember that often, try not to pass judgement and mostly I try to just look at things from others point of view. We never know what a person has been through, what kind of decisions they might face, nor how difficult it is to make those decisions. Its easy for us to pass judgment on others. I am not perfect and some times I forget that we should not pass judgment and some times I forget that what works for one person doesn't always work for another. But for the most part that is how I try and look at things and I hope others do the same. Its when people don't do that and pass judgment upon me (especially those that don't know me) that I can get very frustrated with those people. Having said that, it is what has happen to me as of late. I try to just let things slip off my back most days. I think the only reason this particular persons judgment of me is bothering me is simply because its made me step back and wonder if others view me the same way this person does. I surely hope others don't, however if they do, I really hope I can learn from this and become a better person from it. A wise woman once told me that we don't make mistakes in life, we make decisions, its when we don't learn from those decisions that it becomes a mistake.

For the most part, I am a fairly private person when it comes to things that are very personal to me. If you follow my facebook, or even reading this blog, you know a lot of things I do talk about. Those things are mostly things I feel are light hearted, or not so serious moments in life. Those are the things that make life enjoyable to me. I have had moments that I have spoke of my brother, his passing and a few others things that were very personal and private to me, but that's only because some times its easy to put those things down on paper for all to read so that you don't have to keep playing the story over and over again and reliving the tragedy in front of others. After all we all know what it feels like to have a tragedy and replay it over and over again in your head, much less in front of others who are just concerned and want to lend an ear.

I have a lot of great friends and those friends are very dear to me. There are friends that have been near by while I have went through some of the hardest things in life I never thought would be thrown my way. Other friends have just been in my life for a short time but have been a source of great friendship. The point is, friendships and relationships come and go. Some are around a lifetime, some around for a short period of time. And some of those are not even friendships, they are simple acquaintances. Some times in life you meet some one and while you try and build a friendship you soon realize that you can be nothing more than mere acquaintances. Its better than having an unhealthy friendship in my opinion!

So I leave you all with this............try and remember that we never know someone truly until we have walked a mile in their shoes. And that is a rare chance to have. Remember that some friendships are real and some are just acquaintances that were not meant to be there forever. And remember than when you do pass judgment on someone you should be mindful of how you would feel if they did it to you. Lastly, if a friendship or acquaintance has dissolved and its left you wondering why.......know that there is a time and place for all things and that it has served its purpose. If that still leaves you wondering......go to the source instead of making it an issue or bad mouthing that person.